Mindy Kaling knows that it “absolutely takes a village” now that she’s got her hands full with two toddlers. “The Mindy Project” actress and creator recently spoke to Marie Claire about her choice to wait until later in life when she “had the means” to start her family. The mom of two, daughter Katherine “Kit” Swati, 4, and son, Spencer Avu, 23 months, said, “The choice to have a child – by yourself, on your own terms – it was the best part of my life…It’s the thing that I hope women feel confident doing by themselves.”
Her 4-year-old Loves to Tattle on her Little Brother
The busy mom keeps her children private from the public and doesn’t show their faces on social media, but will occasionally post a peek into their lives on Instagram. On a recent episode of “Today,” Kaling, 43, spoke to host Craig Melvin about her how her daughter didn’t immediately take to being a big sister when the new baby arrived, but has since had a change of heart.
“The 4-year-old is a little bit of a tattle tale,” she said. “I’m excited because she was a little indifferent to her younger brother and now he’s really useful to her because she can be like, ‘Mom, he ate a pretzel off the floor. Get him in trouble!'” Kaling has tried to explain to her daughter that she doesn’t have to be a tattle tale, but Katherine is not there yet. “I’m like, ‘It’s okay. We don’t have to narc on our little brother. He’s not hurting anyone that he’s eating the pretzel off the floor,” she said.
Her Village is Small but Strong
“The Office” actress said it “absolutely takes a village” to raise children, and now that she’s back to work on multiple projects, that phrase especially rings true. “I wouldn’t be able to keep my full-time professional career and have two children under the age of 3 without the incredibly strong relationship I have with my nanny,” she told People last August. “Also with my dad, who comes over to the house at least twice a day to take my son out for walks and pick up my daughter and bring her home. My village is small and I wish it was bigger.”
While she wishes she had a bigger village, she feels “incredibly lucky” to have the necessary resources for support but asking for it was something the writer had to get used to doing. “We carry guilt about needing help and most women in the country don’t necessarily have the same resources. A lot of people are lucky because they have family who can help them, but my mom passed away in 2011, so I really didn’t have a choice,” she said. “Particularly during the pandemic, we really got to see how precious and how indefensible childcare providers are.”
Getting Much Needed Support from Other Women and Moms
Kaling has leaned on other moms for advice and support as a working mom. After giving birth to her son Spencer during the COVID-19 pandemic, she realized just how important support is for moms. “If I didn’t have the advice and comradery of other women and other moms, I would not be able to do my job as a mom, as the breadwinner in my house, as a writer, as a performer,” the “Never Have I Ever” creator explained. “It’s particularly indispensable for someone like me.”