Selena Gomez may seem like she’s got it all: beauty, brains, confidence, and more.
And yes, she absolutely has all of those things, but it takes “a lot of effort” for her to feel that way about herself.
The “Rare Beauty” creator opened up to Glamour UK how she puts in THE WORK work at therapy.
Selena Gomez Credits Therapy For Helping Her Mental Health
“I’m a big advocate for therapy. I also love to keep sticky notes around my house with positive affirmations,” she said. “I have a lot of various ones, but “I am enough” is a favorite of mine – I call them ‘Rare Reminders.’ And taking a scrolling break from social media helps!”
Despite her ‘Rare Reminders’ and positive affirmations, the “Revelación” songstress still has bouts of drained confidence.
“Self-confidence is still something I work on daily, but when I stopped trying to conform to society’s unrealistic standards of beauty, my perspective entirely shifted,” the Hulu actress said.
Sel explained her self-confidence suffered from growing up in the public eye and entertainment industry.
Selena Puts ‘A Lot Of Effort’ Into Her Self-Confidence
“Being in the public eye from such an early age certainly comes with a lot of pressure. It’s hard to feel comfortable when you feel like everyone is watching, judging, and commenting on the way you look,” the beauty founder admitted.
Selena explained that for as long as she can remember, she always felt she had to look ‘perfect’ and a ‘certain way.’
This brought a certain catastrophic situation SelGo got into at the 2018 Met Gala.
The Blast previously reported on Sel explaining how cringe-worthy her look was for that year’s Gala.
She accidentally put on too much self-tanner and the backlash was immediate and intense.
The “Kill Em With Kindness” singer caught up with Vogue in September for their “Beauty Secrets” YouTube series.
“For the Met Gala I was getting ready and we wanted to add some color, so I put on some of this tanning lotion and it looked very beautiful and very even,” she explained. “As the evening kept going on it was getting a little darker and darker, and I didn’t notice it. And, I’m at the Met Gala, basically one of the most prestige, beautiful events. I’m walking and trying to act all beautiful, and I look at a photo of myself when I sit down and I’m completely orange.”
“My first reaction was just to get the hell out of there,” Selena admitted.
It’s situations like this that lead Sel to realize she doesn’t have to impress anyone but herself.
Sel continued to tell Glamour, “It took me a long time to realize that I only wanted to be myself – that what made me unique was also what made me beautiful.”
Selena Says Social Media Became All Consuming
The ‘Only Murders’ star spoke to InStyle last month for their “Bada** Issue.” SelGo spoke about the dangers of social media.
Fans of the singer know she completely gave up control of her social media accounts to an assistant after the pressures became too immense.
According to Helpguide.org, excessive use of social media can fuel feelings of anxiety, depression, isolation, and FOMO.
This is something that Selena can totally relate to.
She explained to InStyle, “At one point Instagram became my whole world, and it was really dangerous. In my early 20s, I felt like I wasn’t pretty enough. There was a whole period in my life when I thought I needed makeup and never wanted to be seen without it.”
SelGo explained that as she got older and evolved, she realized social media, namely Instagram, isn’t EVERYTHING.
“I wanted to be able to look in the mirror and feel confident to be who I am. Taking a break from social media was the best decision that I’ve ever made for my mental health. I created a system where I still don’t have my passwords. And the unnecessary hate and comparisons went away once I put my phone down.”
Selena reiterated her sentiment about therapy calling it a “game changer.”
Sel is a big believer in the practice, and explained that she feels most confident when taking care of herself.