Lily Allen Claims ‘Abusive’ Ex Weaponized Hygiene To Tear Her Down
By Kelly Coffey-Behrens on July 28, 2025 at 12:45 PM EDT
Lily Allen is getting brutally honest about her past, no filter, no apologies.
The singer and podcast host opened up about a deeply personal and painful experience in the latest episode of her podcast "Miss Me?," co-hosted with longtime friend Miquita Oliver.
Lily Allen revealed that a former partner, whom she did not name, used cruel and manipulative tactics to chip away at her confidence, including accusing her of having poor hygiene.
Lily Allen Reveals Ex's Alleged Twisted Abuse
“It was somebody I was in a relationship with,” Allen said. “I think that it was like a form of bullying and abuse... it was a horrible one.”
She explained the alleged tactic was used to make her feel “self-conscious” and “sh-tty about herself," ultimately giving her partner a twisted sense of power. “I don’t think I’ve brushed my hair in any relationship. I just don’t brush my hair full stop,” she added.
Inside Allen’s Tumultuous Love Life
The “Smile” hitmaker has long been candid about her romantic history, which includes a string of high-profile relationships and a recent split from "Stranger Things" star David Harbour. The couple separated late last year after Allen reportedly suspected Harbour was using dating app Raya. Shortly after, the Daily Mail alleged Harbour had carried on a secret affair for three years of their four-year marriage.
Allen was previously married to builder Sam Cooper, the father of her two daughters, Ethel and Marnie. She has also made headlines for confessing to cheating on him with female escorts.
Her dating history includes Chemical Brothers DJ Ed Simons, grime artist Meridian Dan, art dealer Jay Jopling, and rumored romances with "Harry Potter" star Rupert Grintand former One Direction member Zayn Malik.
But the revelations didn’t stop there.
Lily Allen Says She ‘Can’t Remember’ How Many Abortions She’s Had
In the same podcast episode, Allen turned the conversation toward reproductive health and shared jaw-dropping details about her experience with abortions.
When Oliver asked if she’d ever had one, Allen responded by singing a cheeky parody of Frank Sinatra’s "My Way," “Abortions I’ve had a few… but then again… I can’t remember exactly how many.”
She guessed it was “four or five,” while Oliver chimed in with, “I’ve had about five too!” prompting a refreshingly raw and honest discussion about abortion stigma.
“I felt really embarrassed to even say that I had more than one abortion,” Oliver admitted. “Why the f-ck should I be ashamed? I have had a few.”
Allen Slams Abortion Stigma In Candid Podcast Moment
Allen agreed, venting frustration over the need to justify abortion with extreme circumstances. “Just ‘I don’t want a f-cking baby right now’ is enough reason,” she declared. “Literally: ‘Don’t want a baby’ is enough reason.”
In one especially jaw-dropping anecdote, Allen recalled a time when a man paid for her abortion, and she initially thought it was romantic. “I mean fair, to be honest. I was a f-cking crazy b-tch, still am,” she joked, admitting the man ghosted her shortly after.
Lily Allen Admits She Had Kids For The ‘Wrong Reasons’
Last September, the Grammy-nominated singer admitted she now believes she had children for the wrong reasons.
“I spent a large part of my life, before and during my marriage, just craving unconditional love,” Allen confessed at the time, as previously reported by The Blast. “I thought having kids would give me that.”
At the time, she was also overwhelmed by the fast pace of her career and saw pregnancy as a way to force a break from the chaos. “I felt like the one way to stop people hassling me, it’s not about me, it’s about this other person that’s inside me,” she explained.
While Allen admitted the move did succeed in giving her space from the pressures of fame, she acknowledged she had no clue what she was truly stepping into. “I got the break I wanted,” she said candidly. “But I had no idea about the journey I was about to embark on.”
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