Valerie Bertinelli Declares She Is 'Over The Narcissist' & 'More Joyful'

Valerie Bertinelli is continuing her healing journey from her previous marriage to Tom Vitale, which left her with deep emotional scars.

The award-winning actress is embracing her new single life that does not revolve around heartaches and unnecessary drama. She recently released a video about how she's been in great spirits of late. 

The food network star gave fans a life update about how she's been faring in the year 2023 and things she has been doing to keep her body and spirit well and alive.

Taking to her Instagram story, Bertinelli uploaded a video where she revealed that she had been taking some strenuous exercises to help with her connective tissues.

Donning a striped top and a silver necklace that featured a cross pendant, she talked about the exercise, saying, "It's so painful but there's a release that happens that's really helpful. I believe there is a lot of emotional pain that's stored in the body and I'm doing my best to heal from it in every way."

Getting vulnerable with her fans, the renowned chef disclosed that she enjoyed sharing her journey with them because a lot of them could relate to her pain. However, she noted that not everyone might understand what she's going through. In her words, "There's a few of you that don't understand and think 'omg, get over it!' I'm over it, I'm over the narcissist, I'm long over the narcissist."

Addressing a fan's question that was sent to her DM about "what made her tolerate the intolerable," she said, "One of you DM'd me that question that helped you with your healing." Adding, she said, "This is why I share with you guys because you guys help me. I hope I can be helping you"!

Pondering over the question, the "Hot In Cleveland" star noted that by providing an answer to that question, she healed from her traumas and "just put a better life forward for herself."

Sharing how she now feels about herself, she remarked, "I'm more joyful, I'm more happy, a life that I already have that I'm grateful for, but a life that I can truly enjoy because then I finally feel like I deserve it, we all deserve to have a beautiful life."

Getting emotional talking about her new and pleasant life, she admonished her fans to crave a good and befitting life for themselves. The 62-year-old further noted, "So yes, I've moved on from the shitty part and I'm going into the really hard, hard part that has the most benefit to it."

Bertinelli enjoined her fans to continue on the adventurous journey with her but placed a warning, saying, "I'll block you if you want to say something snide and rude to me, cos I don't tolerate that anymore! How about that"?

The "Valerie's Home Cooking" star, who has been very vocal about her trauma in her past marriage, has a message for other victims like her.

Per The Blast, Bertinelli found herself in a bit of a problem after fans got confused because of a TikTok video she reposted to her Instagram. The reposted video stated, "A man usually leaves a woman for another woman. But a woman leaves a man for herself."

Clearing the air about the misunderstanding, the actress expatiated on the underlying meaning of mental and emotional abuse.  Posting a video on her Instagram story, she said, "When it comes to emotional abuse and mental abuse, it's not talked about because people just think I'm not being physically abused so it's not abuse, right"?

She further explained how sometimes, in a relationship, a person loses themselves trying to make their partner feel loved and, in that process, they lose the love and respect they have for themselves. 

She concluded by noting, "So, she will leave, or she or he will leave, to just find themselves again, to love themselves again, because they don't even know who they are."

Bertinelli continues to share the eye-opening lessons she's learned from her previous relationship with fans. Last November, the "Boston Legal" actress reposted a powerful message on her Instagram story that minds like her could resonate with.

The message talked about individuals who got into relationships solely to take advantage of their partner. It read, "They loved the benefits that came along with you. All transactional and superficial. When they can no longer get these things from you – they will find another plaything that doesn't see behind their mask."