Amanda Kloots Offers Advice On Dealing With Grief Over Loss Of A Partner

Amanda Kloots knows what she is talking about when it comes to grief, as she has gone through one of the worst scenarios one could imagine. The mother-of-one, who lost her husband two years ago from severe complications caused by COVID-19, had some advice on how to help people cope with loss. 

Despite the unfortunate way the fitness trainer was thrust into the limelight, she showed strength and refused to fall into the bottomless pit of mourning when she lost her late husband, Nick Cordero. Two years later, she has learned to move on, especially when it comes to raising the son she shares with the late actor. 

Kloots recently held a Q&A session on her Instagram story where she answered questions about her children's book and offered advice to those dealing with losing a partner or a loved one, amongst other things.

One of the questions asked was if grief got easier with time, to which she responded, "Grief doesn't get easier. In a way, it gets harder. It's something you learn to live with. You fight every day, every day, to be strong, keep going, and keep smiling."

Another follower took her down memory lane when they asked what moment she would choose to relive, and her answer was her honeymoon spent in South Africa with the late broadway star, which she described as perfection.

The mother-of-one answered the last question with a lengthy message when asked for advice on how to support someone who just lost their partner. She began by noting that one had to realize right away that everyone handles grief differently and to avoid judging another person's way of grieving.

The 40-year-old added that most of the time, the person suffering the loss was unaware of what they were doing and was probably trying to find their way through. She compared it to an astronaut in space looking down at earth and feeling cut off from everyone else. 

Kloots emphasized that there was no rule book to follow, adding, "My advice is from Steve Leder - Be your authentic self. Grieving people need to count on you being YOU to make them feel normal, that the bottom hasn't fallen out." She concluded by writing:

"If you are a baker, bake. If you are a helper, help. If you are a comedian, tell jokes. Be YOU. Be Available. Be There." 

In May, the "Dancing With The Stars" finalist discussed the issue of grief with Kelly Rizzo —  who also lost her husband, Bob Saget — while also opening up about communicating with her late husband. 

The 40-year-old compared grief to an onion, saying, "You know how you peel off an onion, and it makes you cry? I feel like grief; why it never ends is because we continue going on through life, right? So if you think about it, that's your grief, that onion."

The actress added that being a single mom to their son Elvis Eduardo Cordero made her sad because his father would miss his growing years, especially when he would eventually grow up and leave home. She added:

"When your person dies, many people will say, Don't worry. In a year, you're going to be so much better. And you are, in a way. But I wish somebody would say, Don't worry. Grief never ends, and it's okay." 

The Blast recently shared that the dancer opened up about dealing with the loss and the extra pain she felt having to explain the absence of the late 41-year-old to their son. Kloots joined Bobbi Brown on her podcast to discuss how the month of September was a hard one for her because it used to be their anniversary as well as his birthday.  

She disclosed that the 3-year-old had begun school and started asking questions about his father's whereabouts. She admitted that explaining to him about his dad was very hard, plus he did not like her leaving the house, which made it hard to balance being a working mom. 

The star mentioned that her son remembered his late father, and whenever he asked about him, she would say, "Dada lives in heaven with Jesus, but he's all around us all the time. And we can always talk to him; we can listen to him sing, and he's watching over us all the time. That's what I've said so far."