Tommy Dorfman Revealed She Is Engaged To A 'Gay Girl' Who Doesn’t Fetishize Her

Tommy Dorfman has announced her engagement to a woman who she describes as ‘just a gay girl.’

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Dorfman played the character Ryan Shaver in the popular series "13 Reasons Why."

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She revealed last year that she had transitioned to being female.

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Dorfman described being in love as being "safe," "uncomfortable," and sometimes "painful."

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She added that it also felt "very affirming."

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The actress described her partner as "someone who doesn't fetishize [her.]"

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Dorfman revealed that her partner helps her take her estrogen shots.

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Dorfman divorced then-husband Peter Zurkuhlen earlier in the year.

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The actress said she desired to help younger trans people through their own identity journeys.

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