'Bachelor' Star Rachael Kirkconnell Hints At Sexless Relationship With Matt James

Did Rachael Kirkconnell just spill the tea on what her relationship with Matt James was like in the bedroom?

The TV personality, best known as the winner of season 25 of "The Bachelor," recently sat down for a heart-to-heart interview about her love life. Although she did not mention her ex by name, her words referenced their romance.

Rachael Kirkconnell and Matt James met on the relationship reality TV series, with the latter serving as the program's first Black bachelor. He chose Kirkconnell as his partner at the end of the show; however, he did not propose.

Kirkconnell addressed her love life during a recent appearance on the "Extra Dirty" podcast, telling host Hallie Batchelder that she has been abstaining from sex longer than fans can imagine. Despite recently ending her four-year romance with James, her words implied their relationship wasn't sexual.

"I feel like a virgin again. I haven't had sex way longer than you think. I'll just put it that way. It's been years. Years. It has been so long," Kirkconnell claimed. She explained that she felt like a virgin because she did not want to be sexually involved with just anyone.

Kirkconnell noted that she wanted to end her celibacy for something "incredible," emphasizing her desire for a profound emotional connection rather than physical attraction. "It's like almost like I can't just like hook up with someone random at this point," she added.

Although Kirkconnell claimed she wouldn't hook up with a random person, the door to her heart might not be open just yet for a proper relationship. She confessed that her love life has been nonexistent following the end of her relationship with James.

"I've been so chronically single. I haven't been on a single date. I'm not on the apps," Kirkconnell revealed. She explained that she wasn't a fan of using dating apps to find love because she believed that method wouldn't work for her.

Nonetheless, Kirkconnell admitted that if she reached a certain point, she might have to join dating apps to find Mr. Right. The Blast covered another bombshell confession from the interview, where Kirkconnell resonated with being demisexual.

While addressing what she wants in a relationship, Kirkconnell stressed that she needed to be emotionally connected to a person. She realized her preferences placed her under the demisexual tag, saying:

"I just feel like I do have to have an emotional connection with someone. I just don't think I could go home with anyone."

Kirkconnell noted that she needed to "feel safe and comfortable" with a person and be emotionally invested in them before love could blossom. She added that she wasn't immune to a person's charms and would appreciate their beauty.

However, admitting that someone was physically appealing did not mean Kirkconnell would fall head over heels in love with them. She declared that it didn't matter how hot a person was, if their personality was trash, she would immediately be turned off.

A month after ending her relationship with James, Kirkconnell made waves for liking a post he made in February. The Blast reported that her action sparked different speculations from fans, with some wondering if it was a sign of reconciliation.

Media personality Zachary Reality weighed in on the drama in a TikTok post, speculating that Kirkconnell had liked James' post to prove there was no bad blood. His thoughts were right on the money as Kirkconnell echoed similar sentiments in the comments.

Kirkconnell explained that she never disliked James and vowed that her stance wouldn't change in the future. "At the end of the day, a like is just a like. We're all good over here," she wrote. She doubled down on her amicable stance while addressing a fan, noting that she never unfollowed James.

Days after James announced his separation from Kirkconnell in a since-deleted Instagram post, The Blast shared that Kirkconnell had shut down the infidelity narrative. She told reporters who spotted her at LAX in January that a third party wasn't involved in the breakup.

Kirkconnell stressed that she was focused on protecting her peace and confirmed there was no hope of reconciling with James. The end of her four-year romance came two years after she debunked split rumors while responding to a fan's comment.

At the time, Kirkconnell assured fans that she and James were far from over. She explained that their non-appearances as a couple stemmed from their busy schedules rather than a breakup. She and her ex ended their romance in January 2025 during their trip to Japan.

What secrets will Rachael Kirkconnell spill next?