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Tori Spelling Says Her 'Not Stable' Life Amid Divorce Makes Her Feel She Is 'Letting Down' Her Kids

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By Favour Adegoke on December 7, 2024 at 8:15 PM EST

Tori Spelling is reflecting on her experience as a single mom working in the acting industry.

The actress revealed in a recent episode of her podcast that her work often takes her away from her kids, leaving them alone since she is no longer married to their father, Dean McDermott.

She also pointed out that her "not financially consistent" income makes her feel like she is constantly letting her kids down.

Tori Spelling shares five children with her ex-husband: Liam, 17, Stella, 16, Hattie, 13, Finn, 12, and Beau, 7.

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Tori Spelling Feels 'Guilty' Relying On Her Eldest Daughter To Manage Home While She Works

Tori Spelling, Dean McDermott and their five kids
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Speaking on the latest episode of her "Misspelling podcast," Spelling revealed that her current packed schedule has kept her from being there for her five children.

As a result, she has been forced to rely on her oldest daughter, Stella, to manage things at home while she's been "working my butt off" on a project over the last quarter.

"When I'm working and I'm gone all day, it falls a lot on my 16-year-old to really oversee the family," the actress shared., per the Daily Mail.

According to the "BH90210" star, leaving Stella to pick up the slack doesn't sit well with her. She also confessed that, contrary to what people might think, she doesn't have any hired help working for her.

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"I feel really guilty when I come home at the end of the day," Spelling shared. "People have babysitters or nannies or housekeepers or things like that, but we're just us — I know that's probably really hard for the public to understand, but it's true."

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The Actress Worries About Her Inconsistent Income Affecting Her Kids

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Spelling, who has been single for a while after splitting from her husband McDermott, also reflected on the inconsistency of her income as an actress.

She shared that for most of her kids' childhood, "work was really stable for quite a long time," which allowed her to afford to give them a comfortable life.

"I had multiple shows and multiple product lines and brands and just was a workhorse in an empire." Spelling said. "That's when I had four of my kids and they were able to not see a different side. They were able to have a certain life that I provided for them through work."

The actress went on to note that "all of a sudden, things weren't stable," and her income became "not financially consistent."

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Now she feels she is "constantly letting them down" as the instability in her life has created instability in theirs as well.

"I can give love in abundance, but they're on this roller coaster with me, unfortunately," Spelling added.

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Tori Spelling Says Her Situation Makes It Hard to Hide Things from Her Kids

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Elsewhere during the episode, Spelling revealed that she tells her kids everything, although she isn't entirely comfortable with the arrangement.

"They're on this journey with me, and I can't keep things from them. I have children that are old enough that they read things online," the "Dancing with the Stars" alum said on the podcast. "They read the false stuff, but they read the semi-accurate stuff and they read the true stuff."

She added that it's also been a case of "fight or flight" being a single mom faced with challenges "emotionally, physically, and financially."

"When life keeps serving you things — unexpected things — on a daily basis, you're, like, 'Oh, I got past that,'" Spelling further remarked. "And then you have a plan, all of a sudden, boom. And it's day to day."

The Actress Says She Might Join OnlyFans To Pay For Her Children's College Costs

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In an earlier episode of her "misSPELLING" podcast, Spelling revealed to guest famous actor William Shatner that she's considering launching an OnlyFans account to help cover her kids' college costs.

During their chat about co-parenting, Shatner mentioned the increasing expenses of higher education for her kids, stating, "So you've got numerous children going to school and university whence they will eventually go to, I'm here to tell you is inordinately, I mean, it's just crazy."

Spelling responded, "'I'm gonna have to go on OnlyFans in order to get them into college."

When Shatner asked her to explain OnlyFans, Spelling said, "So OnlyFans is a site I guess, originally, it was more women in the field - not sex workers - but along those lines, but now actresses do it."

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Spelling then highlighted how OnlyFans has evolved to accommodate content creators from various fields.

"It's changed a lot," she explained, per the Daily Mail. "Now there's comedians on and there's chefs on, and it's videos, and people pay, it's like, you could subscribe, but a lot of actresses do it now, and they show things."

Tori Spelling Is 'Really Amicable' With Her Ex-Husband

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Fortunately for Spelling, facing the challenges feels easier with the support of McDermott. Despite their divorce, they have remained "really amicable" and are jointly co-parenting the children they share.

"We're really amicable," Spelling shared with People Magazine at the Gala of the Stars event at the Beverly Hilton in October.

She added, "I know in Hollywood people think divorces have to be ugly, ours are not. We co-parent really well, we're good friends, and he's one of my biggest supporters."

At the time, she also revealed how her kids have helped her maintain a work-motherhood balance.

"My kids are really supportive," Spelling continued. "The older ones take care of the little one now, so it's a built-in kind of community in our household."

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