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Jada Pinkett Smith Reveals Why She Felt Discarded By Will Smith In Their Relationship

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By Favour Adegoke on October 16, 2023 at 9:45 AM EDT

Jada Pinkett Smith still has a lot to say about her shocking separation from Will Smith, which she recently revealed amid the media tour for her new memoir Worthy.

In a new interview, the mother of two talked about feeling "resentful" towards her estranged husband following their separation and how she felt Will threw her "to the curb" after she had helped him find his happiness.

Jada also stated in a different interview that she planned in 2020 to announce their separation on her canceled show, "The Red Table Talk," but Will was not "ready" at the time.

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Hollywood star and talk show host Jada Pinkett Smith has been on a media tour for her upcoming memoir, Worthy, during which she has opened up in-depth about her marriage to Oscar award winner Will Smith.

The actress, who recently announced that they've been separated for seven years now, shared during a chat with Steven Bartlett on "The Diary Of A CEO" podcast that the struggles in her marriage began due to a difference in "love languages."

According to Jada, she and Will had very different ways of expressing their love for each other, explaining that "Will's love language was 'I want to work. I want to work hard so that you can have everything in the world that you'd ever want. You're not going to need for anything.'"

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But hers, on the other hand, was, "'I just want you to be here with me. I don't need all of that stuff; I want to look in your eyes and feel your love and feel your protection here with me.' It was like that connection I wanted to feel."

Jada noted that she wanted to make a "masterpiece" out of her connection with Will, while he wanted to make a "masterpiece" out of " the life itself."

While Jada noted that "neither of those wants was wrong," she stated that finding a balance between the two "wants" was where the issue began.

She noted, per Daily Mail, "As couples, we get into these power struggles [but] it's not about anybody being right or wrong, it's how do you get the balance of it. It took Will and I three decades!"

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During her conversation with Bartlett on his podcast, the actress noted that she felt lost in their relationship due to her constantly investing herself into Will's "dreams."

She said, "It was me just giving and giving and forgiving... not realizing that I was abandoning myself in the hopes that if I just keep pouring into this, if I just keep pouring into him, if I keep pouring into his dream, I'm going to eventually get what I want."

"That's a false idea in so many ways and so many of us do that. If Will looked back and was trying to give me whatever the hell it was I was asking for he wouldn't have been able to accomplish it anyway," Jada added.

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The "Girls Trip" star stated that if she is "not connected" to herself and doesn't have a good relationship with herself, there's nothing Will would be able to do to help her.

"That's part of the journey, there's no right or wrong. Everybody's always trying to find the good guy or bad guy in people's stories. There's no good guys or bad guys; we're all wounded trying to figure this s--- out, and so it took me a long time to realize it is not his responsibility to make you happy. He can't."

She Felt 'Resentful' Towards Will Smith After Their Separation 

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Jada revealed during her chat with Bartlett that when she and Will made the decision to go their separate ways, he told her to "go and make [herself] happy."

The actress noted that she did not take his remark very well, as she felt like she was thrown to "the curb."

Jada said, "I think it was very true, but at that particular point of time, I was just still really resentful. I'm just like, 'Oh, so I helped you get your happiness, now you just going to, you know, throw me to the curb, and you know I got to do it all on my own now,' but that's the truth I had to do it on my own, you know just like he did." 

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She added, "A lot of that's what it's about, me detoxing from needing fulfillment and validation outside of myself, detoxing from needing it from Will, my marriage, my family, my career. I had to get to the bare bones of Jada and walk the exiled lands."

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In another interview on Kelly Ripa's podcast, "Let's Talk Off Camera with Kelly Ripa," scheduled for release on Wednesday, Jada shared that she had planned to announce her separation from Will in 2020 after August Alsina's shocking claims rocked the internet, but that Will was not yet "ready" at the time.

"When that person decided to come out and speak on it, that relationship had been over for two years, and I was in a place where I really didn't want to be emotionally blackmailed in that way, if that makes any sense," Jada said.

She noted that she planned to do her show, "The Red Table Talk," alone to address the Alsina issue, but Will insisted on joining her.

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"And I was like, 'Hey, I'm gonna own this. I have no shame around it.' So I was going to go to the table by myself, but then Will decided that he wanted to come to the table with me," the actress revealed.

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She continued, "He was like, 'I really don't want you to do this alone.' And I think the misconception was that I asked Will to come to the table. I forced him to come to the table, and that just wasn't the case. You can't force Will to do anything, okay?" 

Jada told Ripa that while discussing her "entanglement" with Alsina on the infamous 2020 episode of her show, she began to notice how uncomfortable it made Will and decided to change course because it looked like he wasn't ready to talk about it.

She said, "I started to see him get uncomfortable. I started to see that he was not ready, and my codependency kicked right in, "And I was like, I am going to make sure you are good by any means necessary, even if that means taking on the false narrative that I've been the adulterous wife."

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