Blast Reddit Wars: You Named Your Baby WHAT?

A mom of a 10-year-old got quite the surprise when she took her daughter to see her father's new baby. She asked Reddit if she's the a**hole for "calling my daughter's father spineless and his girlfriend creepy over their name choice for their daughter?"

Thousands of Reddit users shared their thoughts and opinions on the unique situation. Pretty much everyone agreed she's not the a**hole and shared their shock over the now viral story.

She first gave some of her backstory saying that she got pregnant with her daughter during a "drunken hook-up with a friend." The two decided to remain friends and co-parent together. They were never a couple, and never wanted to be one.

"Four years ago he began to date his long term girlfriend and they moved in together last year. She fell pregnant and I've been supportive to them both as much as I could be without crossing any lines," she wrote. "I've encouraged my daughter to help out whenever she's staying with them during the pregnancy and to behave, I've also made it clear that I want the children to have a close relationship despite having different mothers."

This is when things took an interesting turn for Aggressive_Buy4075.

"Three days ago my friend and his girlfriend had a daughter, they asked me to bring my daughter to the hospital to meet her little sister yesterday alongside others of the family. So I did exactly that but when they introduced us to the baby I was shocked," she continued her story. "They'd named used my daughter's name. She didn't seem to have any issue with this when she introduced the baby bold as brass. My friend seemed uncomfortable and wouldn't look at me directly."

She told them that they can't do this and they are being "ridiculous." She told the girlfriend that this is "creepy" and the children's father that he's being "spineless" if he's going to plan to go along with such a thing.

"He tried to claim our daughter could use a nickname or something but I shut that down immediately asking why it was more reasonable for a girl who has used that name for a decade to shame her name compared to a baby who had no concept of what a name was yet," she shockingly wrote.

"I'd also like to state, I know that what they want to name their child is their choice, they could have called her Dinosaur for all I care but this is one name that should be off limits or adjusted, they even have the same surname as they have the same father...Something about it just felt malicious and deliberate as if she's trying to replace my daughter and for them both to spring it on us like that at the first meeting?"

"NTA. From the outside it sure reads like she wants to replace her partner's affection for his first daughter with his new baby. Of course it's creepy."

~ParsimoniousSalad

"And the suggestion that the 10yo should use a nickname? Wow. Talk about audacity."

~HoldFastO2

"NTA. They hid this for a reason. He was embarrassed for a reason. The same FIRST and LAST name is going to cause both those girls a life time of issues, especially with the same father. I usually would have a bit more sympathy for a woman who just gave birth but she seemed deliberately cold and cruel towards your daughter (her step daughter) to have done this."

~DeeDee-MayMay

"NTA. This is a calculated move on the part of the gf, and your daughter's d**k of a father is too spineless to stand up to her. While no name can be claimed, this is a move full of hate and spite. I would tell your daughter's father that you will be going for full custody of your daughter and taking him for child support because you can no longer trust him to do the right thing by your daughter, how can you trust that he wouldn't allow his gf to treat your daughter poorly based on this behaviour. Obviously, his father agrees with you, that this name is not acceptable. I'm sorry but your daughter is never going to get treated right by her father's gf, she is already trying to replace your daughter by giving her daughter the same name."

~Mishy162

"NTA. I suggest you look into changing your daughter's surname to your own surname (or at least suggest she can do it when she's old enough). So at least they won't have the same full name, and she can get some distance from her creepy father. NTA."

~fly1away

"NTA

It is ridiculous that your daughter's dad and his GF do something creepy and crazy. you may be right to assume the GF is probably jealous of your daughter and trying to replace her. Not healthy.

IMO This was deliberate and not innocent even if they claim it to be.

EDIT: I am going to take a wild guess, that the GF had orchestrated the name reveal at the hospital intentionally to generate evidence and throw you out from hospital and from the Guy's life. She knew her behaviour, warrants a scene and she crafted a get out of jail card even before committing the crime."

~Pressnspeak

"Your 'friend' is no friend. He’s not even much of a father if he’s setting both girls up like this.

As others have suggested, change your daughter’s surname to your own, and rescind your babysitting offer. Then get yourself a good lawyer and have as little to say to these people as necessary.

Move in silence until you can say 'checkmate.'"

~Shmokeahontis

"NTA

I'm usually a very big defender of that nobody owns a name and anyone can use names they like. But that is just straight up psychotic and all sorts of messed up.

Also please make sure your daughter is fine, I can imagine this might be quite difficult for her."

~gloomyforces