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The REAL Reason Why Demi Lovato Started Using 'She/Her' Pronouns Again Along With 'They/Them'

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By Favour Adegoke on June 15, 2023 at 4:30 PM EDT

In a recent announcement, American singer and actress Demi Lovato revealed what made her return to using she/her pronouns after using they/them pronouns. 

The decision was made due to the emotional and mental toll of constantly explaining her gender identity to others, stating that it had become "absolutely exhausting."

Lovato also emphasized her innate desire for a more gender neutral-space for everyone, highlighting the need for inclusivity for other genders.

Read on for more details.

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Why Demi Lovato Began Using 'She/Her' Pronouns Again

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Lovato, who came out as non-binary in May 2021, has been an influential figure in the LGBTQ+ community, using her platform to raise awareness about gender identity and promote inclusivity. At the time, she desired to be referred to with they/them pronouns, emphasizing the importance of respecting and validating different gender identities.

However, in a recent interview with GQ Hype Spain, Lovato, 30, shared her personal challenges while using they/them pronouns. The continuous need to explain her gender identity and educate others on the significance of non-binary pronouns took a significant emotional toll on her, ultimately leading the "Tell Me You Love Me" singer to reassess her pronoun usage.

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"I constantly had to educate people and explain why I identified with those pronouns. It was exhausting," Lovato told the Spanish news outlet People magazine. "I just got tired. But for that very reason, I know it is important to continue spreading the word."

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Demi Lovato Guns For A More Gender-Neutral Space

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In addition to her decision to switch back to she/her pronouns, Lovato expressed her desire for a more gender-neutral space that fosters inclusivity and acceptance. The multi-talented artist believes that creating such an environment is crucial to accommodate individuals who identify outside of the traditional gender binary.

Lovato's journey of self-discovery and exploration of gender identity has provided her with firsthand experience of the challenges faced by non-binary individuals. Through her advocacy work, she has consistently emphasized the importance of acknowledging and respecting diverse gender identities.

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"I face this every day, for example, in public toilets. Having to access the women's bathroom, even though I don't completely identify with it," Lovato shared.

She continued, "Or it also happens when filling out forms, such as government documents or any other where you must specify your gender. You only have two options, male and female, and I feel like none of that makes sense to me."

Lovato added, "I see myself conditioned to choose a woman because there are no more. I think this has to change. Hopefully, with time there will be more options."

Demi Lovato Speaks On The Positive Effect Of Her Gender Activism

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According to the publication, Lovato also reflected on the positive impact of her efforts. The singer-songwriter expressed gratitude and optimism for the progress in raising awareness and promoting acceptance of diverse gender identities.

"It will be worth it as long as there are people who tell me that I am an inspiration to them or that I have helped them learn more about themselves and feel more comfortable in their skin," said Lovato in the interview, translated from Spanish to English. "That's the most meaningful thing to me."

She continued, "There are queer couples who have gotten engaged at my concerts, and that's special."

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Demi Lovato Celebrates Pride Month

Demi Lovato Reveals REAL Reason Why Re-Adopted 'She/Her' Pronouns After Previously Using 'They/Them'
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As Pride Month takes center stage worldwide, the singer and LGBTQ+ advocate joined the celebration, spreading a message of encouragement and empowerment to the community. Lovato, an outspoken advocate for LGBTQ+ rights, took to social media to express her support and appreciation for the diverse and vibrant community.

In a rainbow-shaped mirror selfie, she shared early this month on Instagram, the "Cool For The Summer" singer wrote, "HAPPY PRIDE MONTH BB'S!!! I'm so happy to celebrate our LGBTQIA+ community today and every day!! As a nonbinary queer person, I couldn't be more proud to be a part of this community epitome of resilience, excellence, and joy."

"And for anyone navigating their sexual orientation and gender journey, know that you are all extraordinary and exactly who you're supposed to be," she continued. "Don't let anyone tell you otherwise."

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