Supermodel Emily Ratajkowski has opened up about getting over her “fear of abandonment.”
The author shared that she went to therapy to deal with the issue and has now progressed to a “more secure” and “independent” version of herself.
Ratajkowski was previously married to actor Sebastian Bear-McClard but split from him following multiple issues. She was recently rumored to be dating comedian Pete Davidson following the pair being spotted on several outings together.
In earlier interviews, the actress shared that she used to be a “pick-me-girl” and discussed losing and gaining weight after her split from her ex-husband.
‘You Really Don’t Want To Be Alone’
During a discussion on her High Low podcast, Ratajkowski gave a candid account of being in therapy to deal with some personal issues.
The mother of one revealed that her therapy sessions have been going on for a while and that it has helped her deal with her “fear of abandonment.”
While Ratajkowski did not share insight into when the issue started, she revealed that her therapist diagnosed her with an “anxious preoccupied” attachment style after she began going in for sessions.
“It means you really don’t want to be alone,” the “Blurred Lines” video vixen detailed during her show, Page Six. “You typically have a negative self-image [and a] positive views of others.”
In addition, to having an unwholesome view of one’s self, Ratajkowski also detailed other characteristics seen in individuals with an “anxious preoccupied” attachment style.
She added, “They often seek approval, support, and responsiveness from their partner. You’re always turning to your parent for more reassur[ance].”
Therapy Helped Emily Ratajkowski Become Independent
Fortunately for the actress, she was able to work on herself by studying attachment styles during therapy and relating them to herself. It resulted in her being able to make much progress toward being a “more secure” type than her previous self.
Ratajkowski continued, “For me, it was really in therapy where I learned to be independent and get to the root of my fear of abandonment.”
The model also hopes to apply all she has learned to her relationship with her son, Sylvester, to have a more “secure” attachment to him. The Model shares the one-year-old with her ex-husband, Bear-McClard, whom she divorced earlier in the year in the wake of a cheating scandal.
She has since been linked with several other stars following her split from the actor, most recently, comedian Davidson.
Emily Ratajkowski Was Once A Pick-Me Girl
Earlier in October, Ratajkowski had also opened up about another aspect of her personal life, saying she used to be a “pick-me girl” when she was younger, switching between relationships without taking out time to evaluate her partners properly.
“I really wanted to be chosen. It was hard for me to go on a date with someone and think about how much I did or didn’t like them. I would have been thinking about how they were perceiving me, what it meant, what they wanted from me, what it meant about my self-worth,” she revealed to Harper’s Bazaar.
Ratajkowski added, “I don’t have that anymore. So now it’s really fun to go to dinner with someone and be like, ‘Cool. I really enjoyed these parts of them. I really didn’t like these other parts.”
Emily Ratajkowski On Losing And Gaining Weight
Although Ratajkowski seems to have now attained a place of peace, most of the year has been quite stressful for the My Body author, particularly after her issues with her ex-husband.
The Gone Girl alum recently revealed that she lost a lot of weight at a time when she was unwell earlier in the year, describing the experience as “really scary.”
“When I’m really unwell, I lose so much weight,” she told guest Mia Khalifa on a recent episode of her “High Low” podcast, per She Finds. “[It is] “really, really scary.”
Later, Ratajkowski claimed that gaining back some of her lost weight had made her feel both physically and mentally better. “For me, [gaining weight] is a huge game-changer, and it’s how I know I’m happy.”