Tuesday, August 30, is National Grief Awareness Day, and in honor of the event, Lisa penned a heartfelt essay about dealing with grief — something she, unfortunately, experienced in 2020. The “Lights Out” singer got candid about life after losing a loved one while sharing an important revelation about her son’s final moments.
Lisa Marie Presley Talks About Grief In Touching Essay
In the exclusive essay Lisa wrote for People Magazine, she discussed harsh truths about dealing with grief after the passing of a loved one. She began, writing, “Today is “National Grief Awareness Day,” and since I have been living in the horrific reality of its unrelenting grips since my son’s death two years ago, I thought I would share a few things to be aware of in regard to grief for anyone who is interested. If not to help yourself but maybe to help another who is grieving.”
The singer explained that grief isn’t a comfortable subject for anyone to discuss, but if any form of progress was to be seen, then it has to be talked about.
“There is so much to learn and understand on the subject, but here’s what I know so far: One is that grief does not stop or go away in any sense, a year, or years after the loss,” Lisa wrote. “Grief is something you will have to carry with you for the rest of your life, in spite of what certain people or our culture wants us to believe. You do not “get over it,” you do not “move on,” period.”
The only daughter of music icon Elvis Presley shared that grief is “incredibly lonely,” despite having people that rally around or show support right after the loss takes place. She advised, “So, if you know someone who lost a loved one, regardless of how long it’s been, please call them to see how they are doing. Go visit them, they will really really appreciate it, more than you know.”
The 54-year-old noted that people who lose their loved ones “prematurely, unnaturally, or tragically” were often turned into a “pariah” of some sort.
“I already battle with and beat myself up tirelessly and chronically, blaming myself every single day and that’s hard enough to now live with, but others will judge and blame you too, even secretly or behind your back which is even more cruel and painful on top of everything else,” Lisa confessed.
The ‘Nobody Noticed It’ Singer Talks Son’s Final Wishes
In the very moving lengthy essay, Lisa shared her perspective about a parent losing a child, explaining that she understood why people avoid parents who become “victims” of such tragedy.
“If I’m being honest, I can understand why people may want to avoid you once a terrible tragedy has struck. Especially a parent losing their child because it is truly your worst nightmare,” she admitted. “I can recall a couple of times in my life where I knew parents who lost their child and while I could be there for them when it happened, I avoided them after and never bothered to follow up with them because they quite literally became a representative of my biggest fear.”
The mother-of-four continued, “Yet here I am, I am now living what it’s like to be that same representative to other parents … Obviously, no parent chooses this road, and thankfully not all parents will have to become a victim to it — and I do mean VICTIM here.”
Lisa revealed that she had dealt with “death, grief and loss,” referencing when her father Elvis passed. However, none of that has compared to the pain of losing Benjamin.
She wrote, “I’ve had more than anyone’s fair share of it in my lifetime and somehow, I’ve made it this far. But this one, the death of my beautiful, beautiful son? The sweetest and most incredible being that I have ever had the privilege of knowing, who made me feel so honored every single day to be his mother? Who was so much like his grandfather on so many levels that he actually scared me? Which made me worry about him even more than I naturally would have? No. Just no … no no no no …”
Despite the immense pain, Lisa stated that she has had to keep going on even if it’s not easy. She explained, “It’s a real choice to keep going, one that I have to make every single day and one that is constantly challenging to say the least … But I keep going for my girls. ”
Lisa then shared a sweet truth about Benjamin’s wishes in his final days. She wrote, “I keep going because my son made it very clear in his final moments that taking care of his little sisters and looking out for them were on the forefront of his concerns and his mind. He absolutely adored them, and they him.”
Benjamin was survived by the “You Ain’t See Nothin’ Yet” singer and his three siblings, his older sister Riley Keough, Finley Aaron Lockwood, and Harper Vivienne Lockwood.