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No Holding Hands: These Duggar Couples Had Strict Courtship Rules

The Duggar Family | Instagram
By A. Elise

Those who watch "19 Kids and Counting" and "Counting On" know that the Duggar family is extremely conservative. As Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar's children have grown, some have moved into romantic relationships of their own.

What happens when a Duggar decides to court? Seemingly, Jim Bob and Michelle have convinced their children to follow extremely chaste rules that prevent kissing, hugging, and even holding hands through certain parts of the relationship.

These are some of the Duggar couples and the strict rules each followed.

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Josiah, Lauren, and Bella Duggar
Josiah and Lauren Duggar | Instagram

Josiah and Lauren Duggar married in 2018 and had a baby just last year. Josiah had briefly courted another woman in 2015, and a couple years later he announced his courtship with Lauren.

One thing to know about Duggar courtships is that the adult children are not allowed to have a second of time alone together until they are married. The same applies to Josiah and Lauren.

Then, there are Jessa and Ben Seewald. Jessa and Ben were not allowed to kiss or hug throughout their courtship and engagement. In fact, Jim Bob gave the permission on camera for a brief side hug after Ben asked Jessa to court him. When they texted, Jessa's parents had to be included in all conversations.

John David and Abbie Duggar smiling
John David and Abbie Duggar | Instagram

John David and Abbie Duggar were slightly more lax with their rules, and part of this could be that both parties were older when they began courting.

John David and Abbie touched more than some of the other couples. While they still didn't kiss, they were on camera touching, holding hands, and hugging more than other couples portrayed on the show.

The first couple ever seen courting on the show, Josh and Anna, had some of the strictest rules. They didn't spend time alone and began holding hands after they began their relationship. Once they started holding hands, it was a constant fixture in their relationship.

Joseph and Kendra Duggar with children
Joseph and Kendra Duggar | Instagram

Joseph and Kendra Duggar had extremely strict rules for their courtship as well. They were constantly surrounded by chaperones and did not want to touch each other during their courtship. They gave themselves a three-second limit on side hugs and decided not to hold hands until they were engaged. Joseph didn't even touch Kendra on the shoulder, and he was hesitant to help her once on "Counting On" when she was injured.

The couple has been considered one of the most conservative of the group, and Kendra's father being a preacher may be part of the reason for this.

Jill & Derick Dillard
Jill Dillard | Instagram

Jill and Derick Dillard began their courtship while Derick was in Nepal. When Jill and her father, their chaperone, arrived in Nepal, viewers saw a taste of some courtship rules in action. Jim Bob was seen taking Derick's hand off of Jill's shoulder and moving her away.

In 2014, Derick proposed to Jill. They began holding hands after their engagement.

Often, the couples cite the fact that they want to save their physical relationship for marriage. They claim that they are trying to avoid temptation by not hugging or kissing.

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