Anybody who watched the last season of 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way saw Deavan Clegg’s journey. The single mother planned to move to South Korea to wed her fiance, Jihoon Lee. Clegg already had a child, Drascilla, and she was pregnant with Lee’s son.
Many viewers had questions about Drascilla’s father, as he was not in the picture and was not seen on the show. Clegg has always avoided the topic in the past, but she has recently opened up.
Since Drascilla’s father was not mentioned in the show, it appeared that Lee had to step up and become her father figure. He seemed to accept the role with open arms, though he did have some qualms about the way Drascilla was disciplined.
Followers have been asking about Drascilla’s father, so Clegg made an Instagram story to spread the message that she wasn’t ready to talk about it. Her story said, “I escaped a very abusive relationship and I am recovering from it, so please stop asking, it will be addressed later.”
Later, Clegg took to YouTube to explain the situation with Drascilla’s father. She used the name ‘Tom’ to describe the man who became her abuser.
Clegg met Tom when she was 17, and they quickly moved in together. She didn’t notice any red flags in their relationship at first. Soon, Tom had put a password on her phone so that she couldn’t access it without permission. He also was not letting her see her friends and family members, isolating her from everybody.
Clegg says that the abuse became physical too, and soon she was struggling to hide it from others. She got pregnant, and she realized she was going to have a little one who would also be subjected to this life. She said, “I knew that but I really wanted this baby and I didn’t want him anymore.”
When she was three months pregnant, a physical altercation left Clegg with the understanding that she needed to get out. She was able to return to her mother’s home.
Clegg says that the abuse did not stop there. Tom’s new girlfriend would begin harassing her on social media, threatening to take her baby. Clegg got the authorities involved. Tom did not show up to the court date she requested, so she received full custody of Drascilla and a restraining order.
Clegg ends the video saying that the situation still makes her uncomfortable. She lives in South Korea with her new husband and two children, and she appears to be moving forward with her life.