Sources close to actress Jennifer Garner told “In Touch” that she “is touched by his honesty” as well as “surprised” by the revelation, in reference to ex-husband Ben Affleck’s bombshell revelation that the breakdown of their marriage is his “biggest regret.”
Garner is also reportedly impressed at her ex-husband’s choice to take ownership of his breakdown and alcoholism, believing it a sign that he’s made “huge progress.”
“It’s been a long hard process, but he’s finally on the straight and narrow, and she’s proud of him for staying strong,” the source said.
“The biggest regret of my life is this divorce,” Affleck told The New York Times reporter during his recent interview.
“Shame is really toxic,” Affleck said, according to the Times. “There is no positive byproduct of shame. It’s just stewing in a toxic, hideous feeling of low self-worth and self-loathing. It’s not particularly healthy for me to obsess over the failures — the relapses — and beat myself up,” he said. “I have certainly made mistakes. I have certainly done things that I regret. But you’ve got to pick yourself up, learn from it, learn some more, try to move forward.”
The actor’s recent time in rehab was his third go-round, according to the times, with his first stay being in 2001, then again in 2017 and most recently in 2018.
“Relapse is embarrassing, obviously,” Affleck said. “I wish it didn’t happen. I really wish it wasn’t on the internet for my kids to see. Jen and I did our best to address it and be honest.”
The A-lister also talked about how alcohol abuse had affected his family and early years saying that, “My dad didn’t really get sober until I was 19,” Affleck said.
“The older I’ve gotten, the more I recognize that my dad did the best he could,” Affleck said. “There’s a lot of alcoholism and mental illness in my family. The legacy of that is quite powerful and sometimes hard to shake.”
During his interview, Affleck spoke about some of his friends and fellow actors who have traveled the same path to sobriety, citing Bradley Cooper and Robert Downey Jr. as “guys who have been very supportive and to whom I feel a great sense of gratitude.”
“One of the things about recovery that I think people sometimes overlook is the fact that it inculcates certain values. Be honest. Be accountable. Help other people. Apologize when you’re wrong,” Affleck told the Times.
“It took me a long time to fundamentally, deeply, without a hint of doubt, admit to myself that I am an alcoholic,” he said. “The next drink will not be different.”
During the filming of his recent film, “The Way Back,” Affleck reportedly broke down after filming an emotional scene with on-screen ex-wife Janina Gavankar, telling her “I failed you,” he says. “I failed our marriage.”
“It was really important, without being mawkish or false, that he make amends to her — that he take accountability for the pain that he and only he has caused,” Affleck said of the scene.
Gavin O’Connor, the movie’s director, said that Affleck had a “total breakdown” after completing the scene.
“It was like a floodgate opened up,” O’Connor said. “It was startling and powerful. I think that was a very personal moment in the movie. I think that was him.”