The Duggar family has been insanely full of drama lately. Primarily the scandals were surrounding Josh Duggar, or rather, that’s what Jim Bib and Michelle Duggar focused on years ago. Now? A lot has changed.
Their kids are adults, and having since left Counting On, Jill Duggar and her husband Derick Dillard, are stating their thoughts on the way the family is run.
Of course, we can’t forget that Dillard was removed from Counting On due to transphobic tweets against TLC co-star, Jazz Jennings, it’s the remarks about Jim Bob that have fans asking for more information.
Now, Dillard has always been more outspoken about the Duggar family. He was asked if he ever sees the Duggars anymore, and he answered.
“It’s just harder now, because we’re not allowed in the house when Jim Bob isn’t there.”
He went on to explain how they both needed permission from Jim Bib to enter the large Duggar family home.
“Jill even had to ask JB permission to go over to the house to help her sister, when she was in labor, because her sister wanted her help, but Jill couldn’t provide assistance until we got it cleared with JB.”
It sounds spooky, and terrible if Jill didn’t get to help her sister during labor. There’s so much going on here, it’s no idea fans are so curious.
When a fan asked if Dillard loved the Duggars, he responded:
So clearly despite the bad blood and secrets, they still care for that side of the family.
The strangest thing, though, is Jill has not commented on her husband’s Instagram feed. She’s got a super active presence, so she has to know what’s going on; but she’s choosing to continue to post about her family life and the kids.
She did, however, leave a few clues. After things went down on Dillard’s Instagram, Jill set up a P.O box so fans could send letters and packages. She rarely responds to followers who leave lengthy comments saying how worried and concerned they are for her, she did tell one follower she was grateful they were “concerned”.
“It’s OKAY not to be a stay at home mom, it’s okay not to like it, but it’s not okay to be constantly overwhelmed and sad. You need to be happy too and if that’s outside the home, that’s okay! You raised your parents’ kids for enough years at home, you deserve to focus on yourself now,” the follower commented.
To this Jill responded with “thanks for being concerned”, and that she is “content where I’m at”.
She linked a post in her Instagram Story, that might be calling out her parents. It’s a message to all parents, and has a quote from Christian author, Edith Schaeffer.
“You cannot expect to have a close relationship with a teenager who, after all, is still the same person as the two-year-old you stuck crying into bed, the three-year-old you spanked and shoved aside, the four-year-old you wouldn’t listen to …,” the post starts. “[G]reat moments of trust and confidence do not spring out of concrete. They need a long time of being planted, fertilized, weeded, watered, warmed by sun and cared for lovingly before they become mature ‘plants’ ….”
A thread on Reddit has opened up about how they believe this quote and this post references her own family, and many of the users are excited for Jill to take steps on her own without her family; and others are sad because it seems she is realizing her life was an “abysmal lie”.
No matter what is going down, Jill and her husband look exceptionally happy and are certainly taking steps to deal with whatever happened to them while they were a major part of Counting On.
It’s great to hear that they are not entirely estranged from the Duggar household, though it is worrisome to hear that they cannot enter the premises with anyone but Jim Bob Duggar’s permission; it gives the idea that perhaps he’s hiding stuff and needs time to prepare, or wants to be present to make sure things are not said.
Whatever the issue is, keep moving forward!